1. Don’t come across as needy. 

It’s a turnoff and will scare people away. Healthy relationships consist of whole people who can function with or without a partner. Independence and self-sustenance is sexy. Never forget!

2. Be Positive.

Don’t criticize strangers at the bar. Don’t complain that your rosé isn’t chilled enough, or that your salad would’ve been so much better with a splash of truffle oil. Don’t complain at all. We’re initially attracted to people because we think they are positive and fun. Give your potential mate a reason to return for more dates.

3. Treat Yourself Like The Catch That You Are.

You are not trying to find out if the person that you’re on a date with accepts YOU. You are looking to see if you accept him. Does he have qualities that you value? Does it feel good to be with him? Does he treat you the way you want to be treated?

4. Let men pursue you.

Even if you’re the one who made the initial contact, let him do the work and come for you. Let him arrange the dates, and initiate texts. Of course, you want to him to feel liked, but keep him guessing about how much until you see that he’s making real effort and that he’s totally into you.

5. Be Playful & Have Fun.

Have fun. Be yourself and smile. You want your potential mate to see the real you, not what you think he should see. We all like to smile and laugh. No matter if you get to the next date or not, making sure that you have fun will always make you a winner.